I can’t wait to get my hands on the May issue of Essence Magazine. Essence boasts three fabulous covers featuring Ledisi, Solange Knowles, and Erykah Badu. I am very interested in reading these lovely ladies thoughts, “On Learning to Love Your Natural Beauty.” As you all know within the last year I myself have decided to embrace my natural hair and give up the relaxer. This is my 3rd attempt and the reason behind my last two “failures” have been due to vanity, and feeling that I wasn’t as pretty with my natural hair, as I was with my long and relaxed hair. The reason I feel that this 3rd time is a charm, is because I really have learned to love my natural hair. I twist my hair or put it in braids with extensions and I take it down immediately or after a few days because I miss my hair. Same with my wigs, I just don’t feel my best me. But when my own hair is out in its perfectly imperfect kinks, curls, waves and coils, (yes it really is a combination of all of the above…lol) I feel like the best version of me. I don’t know if it’s age or maturity or the combination of the two, but I’m loving who I am these days and especially my hair. Totally random I know, but I think as with being tall sometimes it takes us until a later time in life to learn to appreciate and to love it. I know when I was a teen I did not like being tall at all and wished I was shorter. But once I became older and started to embrace my height and the positives that come with it, I learned to love my height. So as with my hair, where I once hated the texture, I have grown to embrace it and the positives that come with it where I can where it kinky/curly in its natural state or straight when I take a blow dryer and flat iron to it. I love the texture and can’t help playing in it, twisting the coils and curls and feeling the bumps of the kinks. Now I can’t say that everyday is a love affair…lol but in the last month or so I can honestly say it’s been a 98% love and 2% hate when it doesn’t want to cooperate and I have to brush it back into a bun. 🙂
Side note: I am in no way saying that a woman who rocks a relaxer, wig, or weave doesn’t love themself. I love the diversity that we women have and show when it comes to our hair. For everyone it is a personal choice as to what they choose to do or not do to their hair. We all just need to love ourselves and realize no matter what we are beautiful. Tall, short, average, curly hair, kinky hair, straight hair, relaxed hair, braided hair, loc’d hair, skinny, slim, curvy, fat, plus. It’s all good! 😉
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